Here and Now

I was asked to sing Here and Now (an 80’s song by Luther Vandross) at a friend’s wedding and instead of posting a long/boring video of me standing there singing decided to create a picture collage of her beautiful day.

Here and Now


Click here –> Here and Now <– for wedding slide show  🙂



Leave a comment

Filed under Uncategorized

A Homophobic Terrorist


My vigil speech at city hall

Thank you – all of you here tonight.  Thank you for standing with millions who are currently standing across the globe showing compassion for the lives senselessly lost in Orlando.  This hatred for human beings must stop, and must stop today!  In the late seventies the great Harvey Milk whispered into a tape recorder “If a bullet should enter my brain, let that bullet shatter every closet door!”  And shortly thereafter Harvey Milk was in fact shot point blank in the head.  Sadly, here we are forty years later, still taking bullets to our heads simply because of our biology at birth.  Though no one is safe from such attacks this one certainly shows the deep disdain and unschooled mentality that still runs rampant concerning our community.

When I hear or read ridiculous terms like Homosexual Behavior, Activists, Preference, Radical, Choice, Agenda, Morality, Perversion, Lifestyle and all other ill-informed and belittling terms many casually toss around, they may as well hold a sign that states in bold letters, “I have spent little time earnestly getting to know loving lgbt people or couples.”

We live in a nation where gay bashers get little more than a slap on the wrist.  A nation where we are more comfortable seeing men holding guns than one another’s hands.  We live in a nation where we can still get fired from our jobs simply because of who we love.  A nation of countless double standards. I see many young straight couples passionately making-out in shopping malls but if a gay couple holds hands they’re “flaunting their lifestyle.” When anti-gay groups call for nationwide boycotts, it is deemed a righteous use of the free market in order to preserve morality, marriage, family, and the American way. But when the gay community exercises their right to boycott, it is then homofascist intimidation, intolerance, bullying, a stifling of religious liberty, and an attempt to deny others the freedom of speech. Sadly the double standards are countless.

When zealots repeatedly shout phrases like “the gay agenda” as fear tactics gay people are simply walking targets.  I’ll let you in on a little secret. The gay agenda is…. are you ready…. that we are seen as equal.  Until then these travesties will only continue.  I understand some of you fear sharing a bathroom with us.  Some of us, on the other hand, fear a bullet to the head merely for existing.  The blood baths in our community will continue until all politicians, all preachers, all sports figures, all friends and family boldly and courageously take a stand and say, Gay Lives matter!

And because we matter Pride matters.  Gay Pride was not born out of a need to celebrate being gay, but our right to exist without persecution.  And being the invisible minority visibility is critical.  This year’s pride events are more important than ever. We must march for those in Orlando who can’t!”  And we will because that’s the type of amazing community we are.  You can throw us to the wolves but rest assured we’ll return leading the pack.  Let me be very clear to my gay brothers and sisters; there is nothing wrong with you, there is a lot wrong with the world you live in.

In closing I just want to say that Benjamin Franklin once said “Justice will not be served until those who are unaffected are as outraged as those who are.” No one is born with hate – it is a learned behavior.  To the preachers, teachers, politicians and so on who thrive on division – let’s join together and say – enough is enough!  God bless you all.

Click here for vigil video


Leave a comment

Filed under Uncategorized

Out of sight Out of mind


Out of sight out of mind.  That is unfortunately a motto for our families (the invisible minority).  So when our son/family is featured in a magazine it warms my heart to know many will see that families like ours not only exist, but are pretty mundane, normal and very similar to, the neighbors next door 🙂

Visibility is crucial for our families and community. I hope to see many more articles like such in mainstream media in the near future

Leave a comment

Filed under Uncategorized


Yes that is Mississippi backward as that is precisely where they recently went.

Very sad/disheartening. This has absolutely nothing to do with churches as they are already exempt (albeit MANY churches joyfully marry loving gay couples).

This unnecessary “bill” is nothing less than a witch hunt, an allowance for business owners – businesses who are open to the PUBLIC – to eenie, meenie, miney, moe their customers. Hasn’t our country already made this mistake?!?
And lastly these “bills” do FAR more damage nation-wide/globally. When you put into law the notion that certain members of our country can be treated as second-class citizens you will certainly (and we have) see crimes against that community dramatically rise.
Unnecessary, sad, shameful, disgusting and all in the name of religion 😦  Haven’t we embarrassed God enough?!?  Human rights are not an “issue” nor should they be up for debate.  They are simply equal legal rights for all humans.

Leave a comment

Filed under Uncategorized

Study To Shew Thyself Approved

This short clip

is evidence that God still speaks through man.

Leave a comment

Filed under Uncategorized

What bubbles?

You are looking at the stunned and silent (guilty) face of our son when asked if he poured all the bubble-bath into the tub!?!


His (eventual) response was, “What bubble-bath?”

Leave a comment

Filed under Uncategorized

No Substitute For Experience

There is one candidate that deeply concerns me; Marco Rubio. His extreme hostility toward gay Americans saddens me. Not only does he want our community to continually be treated like second-class citizens but if he had it his way he would do whatever it took to eradicate us completely.

He has vowed to use tax-payers money (and his precious time as President) to overturn any law(s) that treat us equally. I find it terribly upsetting that he vowed to work hard overturning DADT. Thousands of gay Americans fight for his rights and freedom every day and he wants to strip those soldiers from their careers – how despicable.

He strongly opposes loving same-gender families from adopting and even helped raise money for conversion therapy. Believing that being gay is a choice clearly shows his lack of understanding/education on who we are, and our community.

I’ll end here for now but how hypocritical must one be to enjoy all the freedoms and equal treatment that his parents came to America searching for to gain citizenship and then turn around and use our system to take away freedoms and equal treatment from other Americans!?!

Because there is no substitute for experience I  wonder his reaction if he were the one in this video clip?


Leave a comment

Filed under Bashing, Bullying, Christian, Civil Rights, Discrimination, Diversity, Education, Equality, Families, Gay, Home, Homophobia, Homophobic, Hypocrite, Intolerance, Lessons, Life, Love, Marriage, Marriage Equality, parents, Rights, School, Uncategorized, Youth