Our family is complete

Ever since I was a little boy I wanted a son and daughter.  My wish and prayer was to have a son and name him Luke, and a daughter and name her Sylvia.  It’s absolutely remarkable and truly amazing to sit back and see years of your prayers answered.

When our son turned three we thought it was time to expand our family, and give him a sibling.  We signed on with an adoption agency and waiting with anticipation.  After a year went by we re-assessed and ultimately decided to stay with our agency but also take foster-to-adopt classes through our county simply to give us more options.

Foster-to-adopt classes were intense at times – especially having to find a sitter for our son and navigate the mountain of paperwork all while juggling our home, busy schedule, career etc., Ultimately, however, we were certified and ready to roll by August.  Within a few weeks we received a call for a baby girl.  Without hesitation we rushed to the hospital to see our little blessing.  She was born September 3rd and weighed all of five pounds. With pure delight we held, fed and changed this precious blessing. Shortly after, we took her home (and went crazy shopping but that’s another post

We were informed that bio mom stated she was willing to sign a surrender, and court was in a week and a half.  After a surrender was signed we could then start the adoption process. Our court date was held the following Friday at 10am. We arrived at court around 9:15 and began combing through our paperwork. Around 9:45 all attorneys, guardians, social workers, etc., started filing-in. Ten o’clock came and went, ten fifteen, ten thirty and finally around 10:45 the court secretary called bio mom to see if she intended on coming. By this time, our heart beats were doubling with anticipation.

The courtroom phone was on speaker and the woman who answered was not the voice we expected. It was a very sweet, loving, intelligent and apologetic young lady. She explained the mix up and then shared that she in fact would be happy to come but didn’t have a ride. We all offered to pick her up, give her cab money etc., but ultimately a social worker went and got her – and she was tremendously appreciative.

I was shocked to see such a beautiful, vivacious, intelligent, loving, compassionate, and well-spoken young lady walk into the courtroom. She first briefly spoke with her attorney and then asked if she could have a word with the foster parents before signing any court documents. Eric and I agreed and all walked into an adjoining room to talk.

In a loving and polite tone, she went on and on about how much she appreciated our stepping up and how thrilled she was to hear Sylvia Evette was in our care. We had many questions for her from her own background to the bio dad.  She even shared she was Filipino and Irish which was a pleasant surprise given our own backgrounds. We asked her if she had any questions for us and the only question she asked is “what did you name the baby?” When we ended our talk she affectionately informed us that after court she would not contact or bother our family in any way, but that she would always be available to us if we, or Sylvia, had any questions at any time or for any reason.

We went into court where we all happily signed all necessary documents. As life would have it she needed a ride home so we asked the judge if it would be a conflict of interest if we took her. The ride was wonderful as we were able to have a more in depth heart-to-heart and get to know this wonderful woman who blessed us with a daughter and Luke with a sister. We arrived at her door-step and with one last hug, exchange of thank you’s and tears, she exited our car.

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And then there was four

My spouse and I spent a majority of the first half of this year working on getting certified as foster parents. There were back-to-back long classes, mountains of tedious paperwork, home-visits/studies etc., but in the end we were approved with flying colors.

The phone calls for placements started rolling-in and we carefully considered each opportunity. The first few calls we received unfortunately were not a perfect fit for our family but eventually decided to say yes to the last one – and in doing so – took in three siblings; two girls and a boy. While this particular placement is not permanent we hope a permanent opportunity comes our way very soon. For now we now have children in our home ages 3, 4, 5 and 6 (our son, Luke being the five year old).

The first week or so was quite chaotic as everything was new and different. These children had to adjust to completely new surroundings, expectations and freedoms, and at the same token, our family had considerable and ongoing adjustments.

I am thrilled to say the dust is settling nicely and our days are quite smooth. Here is Luke, and the middle sibling, preparing for bed  :)


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Send In The Clowns

I’ve always loved Broadway tunes because each song takes both performer and audience member on an emotional journey filled with an assortment of sensations. I have experienced musicals that have left me elated for hours.  I have also wandered out of musical theaters overcome with emotions, completely moved, and virtually speechless for days.

Send In The Clowns from “A Little Night Music” is one of those show-tunes that takes both performer and listener on an intensely passionate roller-coaster of reactions.  It is a brilliantly written piece incorporating both satire and despair.  Throw in a little humor, add some regret and end with a little hope, and there you have Send In The Clowns.

Unless performed by broadways elitist one can never do this song justice.  However, here is my attempt at this masterfully written piece.


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Happy 5th to our son


Happy Happy 5th Birthday to our gift in life.  Well technically not until 9:05pm tonight  :)

It was early May of 2011 we were chosen to adopt this beautiful boy.  A few weeks after that life-changing news I obtained my graduate degree.  A few weeks after receiving my diploma we went on a cruise to Mexico.  A few weeks after Mexico I halted my teaching career after teaching one last summer school.  A few weeks after summer school ended we were cutting Luke’s cord and holding our first-born in the hospital.

Luke you were a whirlwind then, and five years later, you are still a whirlwind lol.  Happy Happy Birthday our son who makes everything in life bigger, better and brighter!

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America Is Humiliated


I have never felt ashamed to be an American but I have to say I am currently humiliated by the behavior in our country.

America we can and must do better!

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Here and Now

I was asked to sing Here and Now (an 80’s song by Luther Vandross) at a friend’s wedding and instead of posting a long/boring video of me standing there singing decided to create a picture collage of her beautiful day.

Here and Now


Click here –> Here and Now <– for wedding slide show  :)



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A Homophobic Terrorist


My vigil speech at city hall

Thank you – all of you here tonight.  Thank you for standing with millions who are currently standing across the globe showing compassion for the lives senselessly lost in Orlando.  This hatred for human beings must stop, and must stop today!  In the late seventies the great Harvey Milk whispered into a tape recorder “If a bullet should enter my brain, let that bullet shatter every closet door!”  And shortly thereafter Harvey Milk was in fact shot point blank in the head.  Sadly, here we are forty years later, still taking bullets to our heads simply because of our biology at birth.  Though no one is safe from such attacks this one certainly shows the deep disdain and unschooled mentality that still runs rampant concerning our community.

When I hear or read ridiculous terms like Homosexual Behavior, Activists, Preference, Radical, Choice, Agenda, Morality, Perversion, Lifestyle and all other ill-informed and belittling terms many casually toss around, they may as well hold a sign that states in bold letters, “I have spent little time earnestly getting to know loving lgbt people or couples.”

We live in a nation where gay bashers get little more than a slap on the wrist.  A nation where we are more comfortable seeing men holding guns than one another’s hands.  We live in a nation where we can still get fired from our jobs simply because of who we love.  A nation of countless double standards. I see many young straight couples passionately making-out in shopping malls but if a gay couple holds hands they’re “flaunting their lifestyle.” When anti-gay groups call for nationwide boycotts, it is deemed a righteous use of the free market in order to preserve morality, marriage, family, and the American way. But when the gay community exercises their right to boycott, it is then homofascist intimidation, intolerance, bullying, a stifling of religious liberty, and an attempt to deny others the freedom of speech. Sadly the double standards are countless.

When zealots repeatedly shout phrases like “the gay agenda” as fear tactics gay people are simply walking targets.  I’ll let you in on a little secret. The gay agenda is…. are you ready…. that we are seen as equal.  Until then these travesties will only continue.  I understand some of you fear sharing a bathroom with us.  Some of us, on the other hand, fear a bullet to the head merely for existing.  The blood baths in our community will continue until all politicians, all preachers, all sports figures, all friends and family boldly and courageously take a stand and say, Gay Lives matter!

And because we matter Pride matters.  Gay Pride was not born out of a need to celebrate being gay, but our right to exist without persecution.  And being the invisible minority visibility is critical.  This year’s pride events are more important than ever. We must march for those in Orlando who can’t!”  And we will because that’s the type of amazing community we are.  You can throw us to the wolves but rest assured we’ll return leading the pack.  Let me be very clear to my gay brothers and sisters; there is nothing wrong with you, there is a lot wrong with the world you live in.

In closing I just want to say that Benjamin Franklin once said “Justice will not be served until those who are unaffected are as outraged as those who are.” No one is born with hate – it is a learned behavior.  To the preachers, teachers, politicians and so on who thrive on division – let’s join together and say – enough is enough!  God bless you all.

Click here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qN7ynKxrGnw for vigil video


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